Tips for new stretchers

take your time
lots of lube
reassurance
ride out the burns
if it's painful pull back until you get a burn
turn hands to different places inside vagina
the one being stretched has to relax
finger nails sanded smooth
if your using gloves...maybe try without
if your using vibrator try without.
You can always tell your significant other to try for home or discuss it.
MAKE SURE THE TRUST IS THERE OR IT WILL NOT WORK